Are you happy? Does the answer depend on what has happened to you this past moment? Does your life and it’s related emotions sometimes feel like some sort of trap. I am happy then the next minute I am unhappy. Like a see-saw. Up one minute down the next. Do you live in a world of constant emotions?

Do you believe you are here to be happy? I did. The follow up question one has to ask oneself is well, if I am here to be happy, why do i experience unhappiness? Do you have the answer?

See it all comes down to why you think you are here, on this earth? Do you believe you here to be happy, to enjoy yourself? To do whatever makes you happy, regardless of consequence? If happiness is the goal then unhappiness will seem unbearable. Happiness is usually tied to self interest. When i get what i want constantly, I am happy. However when unforeseen circumstances take place unhappiness sets in, regardless of the happiness you felt minutes before.

Do you see happiness as the be all and end all of life. Do you think if just this or that situation in my life were different, I would be happy. Maybe. However life is cyclical. You appreciate happiness because you have experienced unhappiness. Unhappiness provides you with the backdrop through which you have the ability to appreciate happiness.

So what is happiness? Happiness is that underlying feeling, beneath whatever is going on in your life, that allows you to say, I am okay. I am good. We could call it peace, or joy or happiness. True happiness is the feeling that you can experience even when absolutely nothing in your life is any different or even when things are not as you would wish them to be.  Allowing things to be the way they are and trying not forcing them to be the way you would like.

What it really feels like is peace that passes all understanding, because it needs nothing to be different in your life, for you to enjoy this feeling. You could be on vacation and be unhappy, or you could be doing the work you love and be happy. Underneath all that is happening to you, needs to be the awareness that you need nothing to be happy. You are happiness.

I can hear you say well if it were this easy, everyone should be happy all the time! True. However it is your choice how you look at what you are experiencing. Hindsight is a good example. Sometimes we experience difficulty and after we have gone through it, we think it was good I went through this, I am stronger, I am more grateful, more appreciative, more more more. Yet other times we have thought something would bring us happiness and in hindsight it brought us more unhappiness. So both sides of the same coin. Happiness and unhappiness are based on your perspective in the moment. So know that happiness is you and you are happiness and hindsight will reveal that which only time can bring.